Thursday, September 22, 2011

Unir


This boy used to work at a construction site somewhere in Solan, a beautiful town in Himachal Pradesh, India. Around 12 yrs old, overly fair with little pock marks on his cheeks and small eyes. He had a spark. I don’t know where he must be at the moment but he had something in him which struck me the first time I saw him.

I met him on the toy train, which I boarded at Kalka Junction. The wide gauge railway line did not ply across places beyond Kalka, thus the toy train. Personally I hated it. The scenic beauty, the snow capped mountains, the 103 tunnels on the way were all fine, but it was hell of a ride for me. The train went uphill and thus it went in circles. One could easily shake hands with the people in the first compartment of the train leaning out from the last. I had a massive weakness with anything which revolved in circles, may it be a toy train, a giant wheel or the thought of the earth spinning constantly.

The boy was sitting at the door of the moving train with some kind of a musical instrument in his hands. I went towards him and sat beside him. It was around 7:30 in the morning, and it was nippy. He was wearing a bandana which was more to protect himself from the cold. A headgear one could easily find people sporting in that part of the world. He was in a shirt which went almost till his knees and a cotton pant. It was a white shirt but it was visibly dirty. I got the impression that he was a local himachali lad.

“I am waiting for the tunnel” said the boy.
“Which tunnel?” I asked.
“The one coming up, it’s the longest one in the whole route till Shimla.” He said.
The Barog tunnel. I had heard about it, and even I used to wait for that particular tunnel as a kid. I remembered.  Little more than 1 km long and most probably the longest train tunnel in the world.
“Oh really! How far is it?” I asked nevertheless.
“It should be just around the corner.” The boy responded. I could see the excitement in his little eyes.

The train entered the tunnel and the brouhaha began, it was exiting indeed. The boy played his musical instrument, which I figured by now, was a Harmonica. He was superb at it, as the music echoed in the dark. It was a never ending tunnel which lasted around 3-4 minutes, keeping in mind the slowness of the toy train.

“Where are you going?” I asked
“Solan”
“Where in Solan?”
“Kasauli”
“Oh! I am going there too” I said.

I stayed in New Delhi, and I was going there to meet my school friends Tejesh and Honey. It was long since I caught up with my two best buddies from school. We had planned to visit Kullu, Manali, Rohtang, Dharamsala, Dalhousie and Shimla.

“Who are you with?” I asked.
“Look at the mountains. So beautiful na saab” he said with a dreamy look on his face.
“Are you travelling alone?” I asked again, befuddled.
“Yes”
“Where are your parents?”
“They are dead” He said, and played his Harmonica with the same dreamy look on his face.

I tried to sympathize with him, the one thing I am very bad at, but soon realized that he didn’t need it. We chatted about the place we were going to. He gave me insights about how to reach my destination and how to bargain with the coolies at the station. He also offered me to get a good bargain with the taxi walla, he was worried that they might fool me thinking of me as a tourist. We got down at a station and packed puri bhajji for ourselves. He wanted some jalebis with milk, so I bought him that too. He got friendly with me over a short span of time and I wasn’t complaining. I found his company interesting and fun. He was quiet a brainy chap with knowledge about what’s happening around the country. I got to know that he left school due to poor finances after his parents died. His uncle made him work at a construction site, a building which was coming up for residential purpose in Kasauli. He used to work as a laborer and live there amongst the ruins alone for the past three years.

“What is your name?” I realized that I had not asked his name yet.
“Unir..saab
He unceasingly addressed me as ‘saab’ even after I repeatedly warned him not to. It was more of a habit than respect I thought.

He was carrying a notebook with him which was full with sketches. That too good ones. He did not draw faces, but he sketched everything else, the scenery, the mountains, the terrace farming, an under construction building, a school, a music class with students learning to play some instruments. It almost revealed his life. He was sketching his life and he didn’t even know. I felt sorry for unir. He was a talented child within realm of possibilities, but he was stuck with the cruel reality of life. I felt for the plight of many children in similar hapless situations across the country. All I could do that time was to wish him well in his future life. I hoped he somehow made his own way and did well for himself in life, given the potential he had.

The train stopped at the Solan station, we both got down. Tejesh had called me up to apologize for not making up to the station. He was stuck with some important work, he reasoned and guided me on how to reach his place. I did not mind.

Since me and Unir had to reach Kasauli, we shared the cab. He was a also chivalrous kid and offered to pay for the cab. Which, of course I denied, although he tried vigorously. I had thought of giving him some money before we parted, but this episode made me sure that he won’t accept it ever. So I dropped the idea. He dropped down at the KC square, and said he would walk down from there.

“Ok saab, thank you. Come to my building where I work someday.” He said.
I smiled and patted his head, and we bid adieu.

I met Tejesh and Honey. They had taken a week off from their respective offices. We visited our school and caught up with other friends who were still around. Things had changed. The same school friends who taught each other swear words were being formal now. The same school friends, who introduced me to midnight hot on fashion TV, were talking about politics and the current fuck up the country is going through. Marriage was the hot topic instead of hot girls. These were the same guys who fought for the other girl in school.

We went for the vacation as planned. The trip was wonderful. We went for paragliding, skiing, trekking etc.  Boozing with old friends with the bonfire was fun. All this while somewhere I thought about Unir. I made a decision to visit him once when I get back to Solan. On the last day of my trip, I reached that building near KC square, asked a few men working there about Unir. No one gave me a proper idea where he was. Dejected, I started to walk back to Tejesh’s place and eventually to the station.

Saab!!” I heard a voice from somewhere.
I looked around and found Unir, sitting with his Harmonica outside the verandah where music was being taught.
“Hi Unir, How r u? I have been looking for you.”
“I did not expect you come saab!”
“I am sure you didn’t” I said with a smile.

I told him about my jaunt with friends. We chatted around for sometime. He seemed happy. It showed how lonely he must have been feeling for the last three years. No one to talk to, no one to share with, no one to play with. I said that I had only a few hours as I had to catch the train back to Delhi at 5 PM. As soon as he got to know this, he held my hand and took me to a nearby restaurant.

"What do you do in Delhi saab?" he asked on the way.
“I am a writer” I said.
“Will you write about me?” he asked curiously.
“Sure” I said and smiled.

“Now, I’ll treat you” he said suddenly with a sparkle in his eyes.
“But Unir..” I tried to speak.
He cut me in between, “I got my salary today! I have money saab
I was amazed by the innocence of the boy. “So, what will you treat me with Unir?”
“Two glasses of milk with jalebi please”

he ordered..


Thursday, September 15, 2011

Turn the tide, live the life


This is for the people who are poor with spellings, who are poor in orange or spoon race, who are poor in mathematics or studies for that matter, who are down with inferiority complex, who are poor in making friends, who are poor with communication and social skills, who are poor in looks and smartness, who are poor in confidence, who are economically poor, who are poor with their dating skills, who are poor in shape, who think they are poor in maintaining a relationship or friendship, who are poor in health, who are poor in talent and skill. In short, this is for the people who think their life is miserable. And shorter, this is for people like me.

I do believe we have all gone through some of the ‘poorness’ mentioned above at some stage of our lives. There are three possibilities; first, you might not have felt this way at all. Second, you might have felt some of the meagerness mentioned. And third, you might be relating to it completely. I would like to deal with the second, third and the fourth ones. Now you might be wondering, what the fourth category is?

There are people who have a great life, they are good at most of the things they do, but these are the same people who fail to realize so. They are up to snuff, but they do not actually believe that they are. This is my fourth category. Wherein you know somewhere that you are gratifying, out of honest feedback, but still do not agree to it personally.

Well, it’s time to move on folks. The foremost thing to do that will be to stop comparing yourself to others at any point of time. You have a life, and only you own it. Success and failure as part of life, is cliché; but you have to decide if you want to remain happy during the failures. Mind you, it’s not that it can’t be done. It’s not the end of the world if you lose a sack race. No big deal if your friend is making more money than you are. It’s the mental peace of mind and hope which keeps you going. Being content as you go along the stages of life will be a good idea. When you see your ex happily posing with a different partner on the facebook profile, be happy for him/her. And at the same time believe that there are better things in store for you. As Paulo Coelho says, “If you are brave enough to say good bye, life will reward you with a new hello”. Turn the tide and live your life.

Be comfortable in your own skin, be yourself. The ones who like you this way are your real friends; these are the ones who will take care of you when you are sick and lonely. If you still do not have such friends around you, don’t worry, you are better off without the fake ones. Love your parents, love yourself. Let your mind go for a short vacation every now and then. Read, write, play, sing, dance, flirt, pray, laugh, give, sleep, take photographs, party, travel, cook, learn music, exercise, shift jobs, innovate, explore and much more. Career is important, but happiness is prime. It’s a myth that happiness comes with power. ‘Sometimes success destroys more than failure’.

Stop living in the future. Everyone gets the same 24 hours in a day, what matters are how you spend it. Make plans and make sure to execute them. If you make a mess, let go, there is no point harping about the ‘should have, could have and would haves’. Give compliments, smile to strangers, keep a diary, keep a pet. The basic idea is to feel good about yourself. We do not measure life in hours and minutes, we treasure them in moments and memories.

Is this my attempt at motivational writing? No, out of all I need it the most.

This is self motivation..